Voices

Victims are still arrested and sometimes imprisoned in states with Safe Harbor.

When Sex Trafficking Victims Go To Prison

When the police arrested Wendy Barnes's pimp, it appeared as if she were free at last, she recalls during our phone interview. “Maybe this nightmare ends,” she thought. But that's when they handcuffed her, brought her to the station, and charged her with the exact same crime: prostitution.

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Having someone steal my cancer history and co-opt it...is unbelievably violating.

Someone Plagiarized My Cancer Story

Having someone steal my cancer history and co-opt it for their first-person Facebook blog is unbelievably violating. Somehow, it feels almost as invasive as my mastectomy.

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I kept crying for a long time — long after everyone else had stopped crying. (image credit: Ashlee Wells Jackson)

Born Too Soon: Discussing The Death Of My First Child

“I don’t even know what to say, Joni. Your baby isn’t alive.”

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The BIG Bang McGillicuddy.

Why I Strip

“Why would you do that? You have a daughter. Why would you put yourself in that position?”

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I don't look quite the same (testosterone is one hell of a hormone) but I look pretty dang cute.

To The People From My Past Who Still (Intentionally) Misgender Me

I'm not a woman. I never was. Full stop.

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BDSM and the use of safewords.

How Safewords Helped Me Reclaim My Sexual Power

The first time I remember learning what a safeword was, I was sitting in my college dorm, devouring blogs about kink and BDSM. It all seemed so foreign to me, a teenager who couldn’t imagine real people doing any of the taboo things these blogs talked about.

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#sorrynotsorry.

#SorryNotSorry: Unlearning “I’m Sorry” For The Sake Of My Daughters

My oldest daughter Sophie is not even 3, and she is awesome. She’s unapologetic about the space she takes up, any inconvenience she may cause, or if she passes gas in public. No. Big. Deal.

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photo courtesy of the lovely Whitney herself.

Stop Telling Whitney Way Thore To Smile: Reasons We Need Feminism #7937

If you're having a shit day and you don't feel like smiling, DO NOT. I don't care who tells you to smile — if you don't feel like smiling, you don't have to.

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