Relationships

Vulnerability should be something we thoughtfully protect with boundaries. But never allowing anyone in harms our precious sense of humanity and our right to love.

Take The Cake: Vulnerability Is Haaaaaard

My sad little girl brain remembers exactly what it feels like to risk everything and get rejected. It happened so many times for me during childhood and then later in my early dating years. I’ve created elaborate systems of avoidance, emotional self-control and pre-emptive rejection. And frankly, girl, I’m tired of it. It’s a lot of goddamn work.

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I regularly call upon personal saints whose sainthood only exists in my mind!

5 Extremely Specific Personal Saints I Pray To Regularly

I regularly call upon personal saints for help. Really specific ones whose sainthood only exists in my own mind, but they’re very effective. Today I’d like to introduce you to a few of them; feel free to call on them as often as needed.

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I am a firm believer that when we decide to marry someone — to make that level of commitment — we should be in sync with our partner’s values.

Ask Erin: Help! He’s A Trump Supporter; Should I Cancel The Wedding? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

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Have you stopped having sex, or are you worried that you’ve fallen out of love with each other?

Your Terrible Relationship Could Actually Kill You

Is it better to be alone than to be in a miserable relationship?

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It’s not sexy. It’s not dramatic. It’s not interesting. But it is meaningful and fulfilling, which is something that reality television will never ever be. (Photo by Andrew Robles on Unsplash)

Want To Be A Better Friend? 8 Tips To Help You Achieve Your BFF Goals

I know that our group of friends is special. But the specialness comes from some core values that I will share with you. I will give you fair warning: these are not for people who are interested in receiving. These eight guidelines are for people who are interested in building a community.

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