loss

My family still couldn't talk about her death out loud, but I needed a reminder she was really gone.

A Stranger Answered My Aunt's Disconnected Number; Here's What He Taught Me About Grief

I touched “Aunt Kelly” on the screen and waited for a robotic voice to say, “this number has been disconnected.” This is how I met Shawn.

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DJ Lee's Remote: Finding Home in the Bitterroots

Remote: A Look Inside DJ Lee's New Memoir

We here at Ravishly are excited about DJ Lee's new memoir, Remote: Finding Home in the Bitterroots. We asked her to share a bit about the book with our readers and us. Read...
Photo Credits: Marnie Goodfriend

The First Girl: On The Loss Of Friendship 

There is no support or safety net to break one’s fall when friendships fade or split apart. There's not an acceptable period of isolation.

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It’s Time We Start Talking About Death (If We Truly Want To Live)

If there is a gift of death to be celebrated, it is the possibility of reinvention. Death reminds us to view our “self” as an activity, a process. Read...
Jennifer Herbstritt (sister) and Jeremy Herbstritt on their aunt's front porch. (Courtesy of the Herbstritt family)

What The Mother Of A School Shooting Victim Taught Me About Parenthood

While planning to have a child of my own, I often asked myself: What would it feel like to parent a child who later died unexpectedly in a school shooting?

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Lessons On Losing My Family And Finding My Home

I did it. I finally did it. And it only took my whole family dying to get me here.

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Letters To The Dead: Shadow Writing For Grief & Release

Some grief is inert. Some grief is an engine. Sometimes actively participating in grief, I’ve learned, is one small way we can learn to escape its riptide.

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You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

Why I’ll Never, Ever Get Over My Girlfriend’s Murder

You can learn to live with the pain, you can move on as I have after over a decade of self-reflection and hard work, but you never, ever get over it.

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