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Kinksters, Creepers, And Shame, Oh My! On Kink Shaming And Personal Responsibility

Kinksters, I am not here to shame you. I am not telling you not get your rocks off. I am simply advocating introspection.

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Why Your Favorite Fantasy Is Problematic

No, it’s not "just fantasy." Maybe in a better-educated world it would be, but here, it is an active reinforcement of norms.

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Ravishly's Top 5 Reads Of The Week

Left Shark musings, an analysis of "plus-size," and why women should pop the question . . . among other treasures. You know what to do. Ravish it.

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5 Facts About Zoophiles In Aftermath Of #DolphinLover Controversy

Bestiality: five syllables nobody really likes to utter. Especially in the same sentence as tolerance or consent.

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Disturbing But Not "Shocking": New Study Shows 1 In 3 Men Would Rape If They Could Get Away With It

I fully acknowledge that we live in a click-bait-driven world and yet . . . are these findings really "surprising"? Absolutely not.

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7 Things I’m Not Afraid To Tell My Sons About Love, Sex And Their Bodies

I’m spelling them out here so that other parents can talk about them and other boys can see that there isn’t just one way to become a good man.

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Final Predestination: How I Escaped The Abuse

My friends were throwing down red flags before we even saw each other’s faces. And I should have been more mindful, and I knew it. But I was curious.

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Sex And The Talmud: Ultra-Orthodox Jewish Men Are Obligated To Make Their Wives Come First 

Jewish law obligates men to make the woman orgasm first. Um . . . get me to the synagogue and under that chuppah ASAP.

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