Little Bear Schwarz

“I actually like women who look like you.” How do I begin to explain what is wrong with that statement?

Kinksters, I am not here to shame you. I am not telling you not get your rocks off. I am simply advocating introspection.

I’m not brave because I’m shameless, or superior, or strange. I’m brave because I’m afraid.

Is this a thing that happens? Do people come out — or come BACK out — as cis? Is there a closet with a hidden door?

If we were to cut off all of our favorite forms of media because they contained problematic elements, we would live in a very silent and still world.

No, nothing will make you less of a woman. But nothing will make me more of one, either.

So the result, therefore, is a culture of “fans” considering us Sideshow Freaks — bearded ladies included — to be “neat” and “fun,” but not actually real.

If the world told me that I would never land a career, a love life, or happiness as a woman, with a face & body covered in hair, is it not empowering (and to a degree, feminist) for me to flip them the bird, grow it anyway, and prove them wrong?

The building pressure of trying to find security and a future on my own, compounded with my heartbreak, caused me to snap.

You can’t just sit there and post links; you can’t just talk a big game. You have to walk the walk. Want to make the world a better place for us? Start listening to — and stop stonewalling — the women by your side.