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Should We Have A Second Child? Image: Mariah Sharp @MightyMooseArte

Only The Lonely Are Only: Should We Have A Second Child?

Should We Have A Second Child? From the moment the first baby was born, I’d been obsessing about a sibling: When will my period come back?

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"Selfish" or not, why should I feel pressured or bad about not wanting another baby right now?

Stop Making Me Feel Bad For Only Having One Child (Coming From An Only Child Herself)

"When is there going to be baby number two?" It's a familiar question to those who opt to have an only child. But it's no one else's business whether or not I have another child.

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This is what works for me. I am happier as a parent of one.

Having One Child Makes Me A Better Mother

I know of people who find one child incredibly challenging and seem to hate the whole experience. And yet they proceed to have another child willingly.

I wonder about these decisions. For me, I would be a terrible mother if I had another child.

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Letting go of family hopes is a long road (Image Credit: Thinkstock)

When Firsts Are Lasts: Coping With Secondary Infertility

I know motherhood is hard. Especially new motherhood — those early days are a fog of tears, confusion, and helplessness. But I also know that yearning for something you can’t have, particularly with regard to children, is a feeling far worse. I’ve lived through the pain of childbirth, of a 3rd-degree tear, two related surgeries and a year of recovery, of postpartum depression, of miscarriage and of infertility and my god; I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat if it meant a chance to… Well, to do it all over again.

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These well-meaning souls tell me my 2-year-old “needs” a sibling. No, she doesn't. Image: Thinkstock.

In Praise Of The Only Child

I had all my parents' attention, all the time. Yes, it felt a little much at times, but it also made me a great conversationalist. Hanging out around adults was calming. They didn't pull my hair or push me over to grab a toy. They didn't spit on me or break my things. They had self-restraint. (And they responded well to stares.)

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