femininity

The clothing does not define the activity at this age; it’s not a uniform. Image: Thinkstock.

Just Because It Sparkles Doesn't Mean It's Anti-Feminist

Many people (rightfully) believe that women own their bodies, and that, therefore, they should be in control of their own bodies. So why do those same people turn around and try to define girls by their clothing?

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Ryan!

I Entered My Son In A Beauty Pageant. Turns Out They're Just As Bad For Boys As They Are For Girls.

I’d like to think my son won his first (and only) beauty pageant because of his sparkling personality, curly mop of hair, bright blue eyes, and adorable tuxedo — but the truth is that he won because he was the only boy in the entire pageant. He won every category I entered him in, regardless of his looks, personality, or actions. He literally won just for showing up. It was the embodiment of both white and male privilege.

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How Dating Girls Changed My Perspective On My Own Femininity 

It was in my second year of college that a girl expressed sexual interest in me. It took me a month to realize that what I thought were hangouts were actually dates. It took me another month to realize I wanted them to be dates. As I realized I wanted her to like me, I slipped back into my old routine — my makeup got more advanced and my hair was always straightened. I still thought that to be attractive, I had to be as feminine as possible. I’d been a hardcore ally for a decade at that point, but had no idea about the politics of beauty within the queer community; I thought I was stepping back into my old role.

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The patriarchy has devalued nearly everything associated with femininity and over-valued nearly everything associated with masculinity.

Why We Fear The Feminine… And How To Stop

I have a confession: Until recently, I didn’t even know what “patriarchal society” meant. Yeah, I’m one of those feminists who grew up believing I didn’t need feminism.

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Men aren't as averse to style and beauty as you might think!

Surprise! Men Secretly LOVE Getting Their Nails Done (Seriously)

Ladies, it’s time to ditch the old stereotype that men don’t care about being pampered. It’s entirely untrue.

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Is It OK For Men To Be Feminine?

Gender gets tricky, what with it being a social construct and all.

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The Subversive Gender Message In Mariah Carey's Latest Music Video

Sex and bodies don't clarify gender; they confuse the issue.

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Fumbling Toward Friendship, Part 1: Christine Love & Maddy Myers

Games makers/writers Christine Love & Maddy Myers join the interview fray to wax femme empowerment in games.

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