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When you ask if my girlfriend and I are sisters, I am going to think you are nosy, because what difference does it make? Image: Thinkstock.

Dear Strangers: Please Stop Asking If My Girlfriend And I Are Sisters

For some reason, the idea that two women are related and together in public is somehow so exciting that it must be made known to everyone within a mile radius.

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I just want closure!

Ask Erin: I'm Being Ghosted — How Do I Get Closure?

He totally forgot what time and place we'd agreed upon and ended up being an hour late. He even told me at the restaurant that I was lucky he showed, because if he didn't really like me, he would have blown me off!

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Hundreds of guests came to support them as they publicly parted ways. Image: imgur.

How This 'Divorce Party' Could Change The Way We View Breakups

Sometimes we grow apart — other times we come to the realizations that we just aren’t the best life partners for each other....Natalie, better known by her performer name Mikka Minx, decided to challenge that perception when she and her partner of 10 years (and spouse of three years) decided to part ways last year.... They threw a “divorce party,” which proved to be incredibly cathartic for everyone involved.

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Hookup culture itself is not inherently a problem. It just isn’t for you. Image: Thinkstock.

Hookup Culture Is Not Inherently A Problem

Tinder's convenience hasn't “converted” anyone into suddenly only wanting one-night stands. I’ve never heard anyone say “I used to only want to sleep with people I was emotionally invested in, but Tinder is SO CONVENIENT.” Nobody’s treating their sexuality like impulse-buying a candy bar by the checkout counter at a fucking grocery store, so stop treating them like they do.

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We are queer, but we are people, too. Our uniqueness is real, and it is valuable.

On Bisexual Erasure In The Queer Community

No one should have to explain themselves to gain legitimacy. If we spend all of our time flashing our cards to get a pass into the queer club, we’re screwing ourselves over. At the end of the day, who's in charge of the gates? The white cis men who currently dominate the queer narrative?

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If the circumstances were different, I would tell him to cut his losses and go back to her.

Ask Erin: Help! My Partner Isn't Over His Abusive Ex.

My partner and I got together last December. The problem is that, while he loves me, my boyfriend hasn’t got over his ex. Being polyamorous, my partners loving other people as well is not a problem.

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You can’t force, manipulate, or sneak your way into a romantic relationship. Image: Thinkstock.

An Open Letter To The Women I've Accused Of Friend-Zoning Me

First of all, befriending someone and becoming their confidant while secretly yearning to get in their pants isn’t just fucking creepy, it’s manipulative. The girls I “befriended” opened up to and trusted me because I was patient, sensitive, and seemed to have their best interests in mind.

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 really want to meet him, but I don’t know what to do because of the pictures.

Ask Erin: How Do I Tell The Guy I Met On Tinder I'm Not The One In My Pictures?

Dear Erin, OK, I am sure I’m going to catch hell for this, but I created a fake profile on Tinder. I mean, the profile isn’t completely fake, but the pictures are.

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