consent

My family's culture demands touching.

Consent Is Hard When Your Family's Culture Demands Touching

Sometimes I wouldn’t want anyone to touch me, but I had to put up with it or I would be seen as rude and cold. My family's culture demands touching.

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How To Talk To Boys About Talking About Girls

I just listened to my four and six year-old children (one boy, one girl) have a lengthy bathtime conversation about babies, growing up, m

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We’re all familiar with the anti-rape catchphrase of the modern era, that ‘No means no’, but far less resolute when it comes to the topic of coercion. Image: Zach Guinta/Unsplash.

When 'Yes' Means 'No': How I Let My Boyfriend Rape Me

The more he pressured and guilted me, the more distant I felt from him, and the less I felt like becoming sexually aroused was even a faint possibility.

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"We’re all capable of violating others’ boundaries."

Learning To Practice Consent As A Straight Woman

I have pressured people into sex. I have had partners say they weren’t in the mood and tried to change their minds. I have sulked when they didn’t. And I did this for years without realizing it was wrong. Why? Because I’m a straight woman.

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When's The Right Time To Stop Mid (Consensual) Sex? Any Time Your Partner Says "Stop" 

Life is not like Temple of Doom. If she wants to get away you can't crack your whip, reel her back, and expect her to be grateful.

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