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Fatness, femininity and hair! Photo credit: @virgietovar on Instagram

Take The Cake: Fatness, Femininity, And My Pink Bangs

One of the things I have done for myself in adulthood as part of my healing process is make a strong claim to fatness femininity.

Periods shouldn’t make you unhappy. Periods shouldn’t be painful. Having a vagina shouldn’t be painful.

To My 13-Year-Old Self: I'm Sorry No One Taught You About Your Period

One day, when you’re twice your age, you’ll write a letter to yourself with all the things no one taught you about your period

5 foods for optimal vagina health.

5 Foods That Are Good For Your Vagina

As the saying goes, you are what you eat — meaning, what we put into our bodies affects our overall health. Here are 5 foods that are good for Read...

Virgie Tovar

Take The Cake: Meet Chile’s Fat Mafia  

I arrive at the airport and I see the chubby, bespectacled face of my friend, Andrea. This was the beginning of my adventure with Chile's fat Read...

Join me and free your arm fat!

Take The Cake: 4 Reasons To Free Your Arm Fat

This year has been a real paradigm shift year for my arm fat, and I’d like to offer you 4 reasons to join me in public wobbly ecstasy: free your Read...

Often I run because I’m afraid not to.

Why I Didn’t Post A Selfie After I Ran A Half Marathon

I will not be posting any victory selfies after races until I'm willing to tell the full story about my running and how I use it to aid and abet Read...

The fashion industry told me that I was not deserving of a childhood at a very young age.

How Access To Plus-Size Fashion Changed (And Saved) My Life

When we don't allow fat girls access to age-appropriate clothing, we're sending one terrible, chilling message: You're too big to deserve a Read...

"I save dresses for the kinds of “special occasions” where it’s easier to wear a dress than to argue with people about why I didn’t wear a dress."

We Need To Talk About The Pressure To Be Femme When You're Fat

Femme, as it’s expected, isn’t easy for me. It seems to demand from me labor I’m increasingly less willing or less able to undertake as a mentally Read...