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I’ve been in a lesbian relationship for two years. The first six months were amazing. After that, she began pulling away from me in small ways. At first, she gave me fewer compliments. Then, we started having sex less, going out together less, in general spending less time together.

She asked if she could stay with me. The thing is, I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. I suggested that I could come visit her for the weekend, but she still wants to come here. Of course, I wouldn’t object to sharing a bed with her, but something keeps giving me pause.

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. We have a pretty good relationship, rarely fight, and I love him. However, he has no ambition and it’s really starting to bother me.

More than 50 years ago, my dad had a daughter and her mom’s new husband adopted her. My dad later had three kids with my mum and no one talked about the other daughter — I didn't know she existed until a few years ago, when my grandmother made some sort of off-hand remark and I started asking questions.

I wanted my boyfriend to post pictures with me. I posted pics as well. This might sound childish, but there were always these girls trying to break us up. So, for me, that's how it worked — posting pictures regularly would let them know that we’re still together.

I’m in my early 20s and he’s in his 40s. He’s my 6-year-old brother’s best friend’s father. He’s old enough to be my dad too, actually. He’s got four kids — all with different moms (one who is my age).

We both want to make it an ongoing thing with this particular guy and he was also open. The problem is, when we were at the bar he showed us a picture on his phone, from a social media page. We looked him up later to add him, and he is engaged!

He keeps telling me not to worry, that he’s “not like the others.” I’m starting to think he hates me and he doesn’t want to be in this relationship. It’s only been a little over a month.