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Black Lives Matter... all the time (Image Credit: Instagram / theblackjoyproject)

Black Allies, Here Is What You Need To Know About #BlackJoy

There is black struggle, but there is black joy. There is black heartache, but there is black levity as well. There is black income disparity, and there is also black wealth. There is softness and light in the black experience. It all coexists. It’s all valid.

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“Can you do another blood test, or maybe an x-ray?” I asked. I could not wrap my head around why I would be short of breath all the time if nothing was wrong. He looked at my husband and rolled his eyes.

I Went To 3 Doctors Before Finding Someone Who Believed In My Illness

When there is a preconception that women exaggerate or are “hysterical,” then it follows that they won’t be listened to as carefully as men, or that they won’t be believed.

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“Can you do another blood test, or maybe an x-ray?” I asked. I could not wrap my head around why I would be short of breath all the time if nothing was wrong. He looked at my husband and rolled his eyes.

I Went To 3 Doctors Before Finding Someone Who Believed In My Illness

When there is a preconception that women exaggerate or are “hysterical,” then it follows that they won’t be listened to as carefully as men, or that they won’t be believed.

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No one has ever explained to me what “be careful” means in this context. (Image: Thinkstock)

Why Are Men Always Telling Me To Be Careful?

I’m not scared on the street very often, but y’all, this time I was scared. But if there’s one thing I know, it is that you do not answer these guys, because that only makes it worse. So I held my breath and hoped that if I didn’t engage, he’d drive off eventually. I felt for my cell phone in my pocket, wondering how quickly I could get ahold of someone if I needed to.

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Take The Cake: Loving My Extended Adolescence (Or Something)

In the wake of America's "crisis of adulthood" and in the middle of a city known for Peter Pan Syndrome, I find myself feeling that I too have gotten an extension on my adolescence. It has become a time for me to heal, center myself in a way I never could in childhood, and figure out what I want for my life.

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Take The Cake: How Patriarchy Is A LOT Like Chuck E. Cheese

One of my favorite ways to help people conceptualize patriarchy is by asking them to imagine a Chuck E. Cheese.

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I Froze Up During An Assault And That’s Completely Normal

When you get a massage somewhere “nice,” they often have a little box to check regarding the gender of your masseuse.

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Life is not a perfect linear story plot. (Image Credit: Think Stock)

If At First You Don't Succeed, That's OK. That's Life.

Success is an uphill climb, but it’s rarely a directly uphill climb. There are cliffsides and plateaus, there are points where you have to adapt and change in order to make things work. These are not steps backwards, nor are they indicative of your failure—they’re simply a byproduct of life. More often than not, this ability to work with the circumstances in order to get by will take you farther than certain “skills” ever could.

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