marriage

I’ve been transported back to high school, back to the time between fifteen, when I got my first kiss, and seventeen, when I started to date.

I'm Here, I'm Queer, HELP ME

Over the past few months, my partner, Christopher, and I had continuously kicked around the idea of introducing other people into our relationship. Contrary to stereotype, these talks weren’t centered around satisfying his fantasy of sleeping with two women — though he certainly didn’t mind the idea. No, we spit-balled ideas about other women for my sake, to see how I could explore my queer identity within the context of our commitment.

Read...
My kids didn’t need a warden. They needed a father.

Why This Dad Has Given Up Being A Hero 

This article originally appeared on The Good Men Project and has been republi

Read...
Ultimately, his love was stronger than my fear. And, I surprised myself to discover that so was mine.

Childhood Tragedy Made Me Terrified of Settling Down

When I was six years old, my mother and three close family members were killed in a sudden and public tragedy, hurling those of us who survived int

Read...
Silliness is the glue that will hold you together even when you’re saggy, flabby and grey. (Image: Thinkstock)

If Your Partner Does These 10 Things You Should Marry That Person

How do you know if you should marry your partner? It’s true that it is “just a feeling” to some extent.

Read...
Love is the only thing we try to claim is beautiful because it lasts forever.

It’s Time To Redefine What We Call A “Successful Relationship"

I've long considered myself a collector of failed relationships. From the girlfriend I asked out during a bar crawl and dated for eight days to the conservative Christian who thought her love was “saving me from a life of debauchery,” I actually gained a little pride from my list of failed love affairs. However, while these relationships were problematic, what made them “failures?”

Read...
You and your husband have a responsibility to integrate yourselves into the neighborhood. (Image: Thinkstock)

When You’re Married To The Only White Man In The Building

When you’re married to the only white man in your apartment building—and one of the very few in the neighborhood—you, as a woman, make a habit of observing him, especially if you’re a woman of color or a mixed race woman. “Will he use his social privilege for good or evil?” is the simple question, but evaluating him in those terms is not so simple.

Read...
Being a Supermom isn't worth losing a spouse (Image Credit: Thinkstock)

I Gave Up Being A Supermom To Be A Better Wife

When my son was a baby, I used my husband as a second set of hands. He was my co-parent, the other caretaker... I was no longer viewing him as my partner, but rather as an aide to attaining the next level of mothering. Even though my husband never called me out on my behavior, I slowly but surely hung up my need for perfection. Because if being a great mother means being a crappy wife, I don't want any part of it.

Read...
Can a cheater really change? (Image Credit: Thinkstock)

Ask Erin: Can My Marriage Survive My Husband’s Sex Addiction? 

She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.

Read...