fatherhood

I can foster confidence in hands-on parenting. I'm teaching my child what I never learned.

This Is How It’s Done: Teaching My Child What I Never Learned Growing Up

By learning from my husband what confident parenting looks like, I can foster confidence in hands-on parenting. I'm teaching my child what I never learned.

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Parenting gets harder. Giving up control of our kids is an art.

Parenting Gets Harder (If You’re Doing It Right)

Parenting gets harder. Giving up control of our kids is an art.

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Good Fathers Are Not Saints

An equitably responsible life between a man and a woman should not be seen as a rare wonder, but an expectation.

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In his death came the “this is no joke” realization that — cliché as it is — life is short.

The Death Of My Father Is Helping Me Live A Better Life 

I’m not sure I would have persisted with such ambition prior to my father’s death. I’ve found that a loved one’s passing does more than nudge you forward; it can catapult you towards exciting opportunities.

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"My anger was there when my father wasn’t. My anger has been reliable. Sometimes it feels like my anger taught me all the things my father should have."

Learning About My Father's Personality Disorder Helped Me Forgive Him

I have to accept the fact that Black men are not allowed to deal with their mental health issues — specifically personality and schizoaffective disorders. The man I considered a deadbeat dad for most of my life is a victim too.

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"My anger was there when my father wasn’t. My anger has been reliable. Sometimes it feels like my anger taught me all the things my father should have."

Learning About My Father's Personality Disorder Helped Me Forgive Him

I have to accept the fact that Black men are not allowed to deal with their mental health issues — specifically personality and schizoaffective disorders. The man I considered a deadbeat dad for most of my life is a victim too.

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Even if our situations were similar, we are different people.

My Husband Is A Better Parent Than Me

My husband never, ever drives thru a fast food restaurant because it’s easier, and instead makes it back to the house and gives our daughter something that WILL grow mold if left out too long, unlike the McDonald’s hamburger I would have let her have.

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Take a note from the little ones on how you should be parenting them.

Why Good Parents Realize Their Kids Are The Best Parenting Experts

You've probably read parenting books, consulted experts and already formed strong opinions about what's best for your kid. But have you ever stopped and consulted your child about her own upbringing?

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