BDSM

I realized I wanted to be part of the BDSM world, and that maybe it could help with healing.

Honestly, I’d say about 90% of the sex I have in my long-term monogamous relationship is “vanilla.” We are, believe it or not, a normal couple who does normal sex things just like anyone else. We are two people who know what the other likes and we do those things.

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You don’t even have to be a good person to be incredible at sex, apparently (my ex proves this).

Back in the old days, before the Internet was in our pockets, finding a vacation rental involved travel agents. Finding a vacation rental equipped with kinky sex equipment...Well, I don’t know how that would have worked. Luckily for all the fetishists out there, those dark days are behind us.

I did a boudoir photography shoot shortly before becoming pregnant. I lost 25 pounds to help control my blood pressure before pregnancy put its strain on my heart and I hadn’t been at that weight since high-school. I wanted a record of that body, before I shared it with a new little human. It felt so satisfying to take in all of my sexy lingerie, to tighten those cords of my corset. I had done it! I was smoking hot!

“It’s almost as though this niche was patiently waiting for us to find it.”

sex sage. fetish specialist. author.