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She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to…Ask Erin!

I feel like indirect communication is a common thread amongst women. Since women are socially conditioned to not make a fuss, ruffle any feathers or have permission to speak our minds, indirect communication becomes inevitable. Or conversely, if we communicate directly, we’re often labeled in a negative manner, like bitch.

While some high-powered couples do need to think deliberately about which parent will lead on a long-term basis, most two-parent working households are muddling through some variation of partnership. Partnering isn’t easy.

The dictionary defines love as: a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. So if you want your loved one to feel loved it is about two things; what you do and what you say.

Ask Erin! is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions, about anything at all.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and not felt good enough? Sometimes we give up dreams, hopes and love out of fear, negative self talk and pain. We rob ourselves of the only thing that no one else can truly give us: love.

Part of the problem with not having a job is that there’s a constant feeling of instability. While working friends often comment that they wish they had the free time you currently have (the grass is always greener!), the lack of structure can make you feel a little out of control.

The more conversations I have with fellow millennials, the more I realize we’re all going through similar growing pains. Professionally, we’re often struggling either to find our niche or to advance in the careers we’ve settled on. Socially, our friendships are in flux, with people constantly moving around and revising their values. And romantically, many of us still have nothing to report while we watch one friend after another pair up.