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You can’t change a fuckboy.

Here’s the absolute truth: you cannot change a fuckboy unless he wants to change by himself. This is where girls get messed up. They think that a guy is going to change his crappy behavior for HER. This is not the case 99.9% of the time. If he’s a fuckboy, he’s not ready to stop being one. It doesn’t matter how great you are or how much you love him. Trust me.

He has to make that decision for himself.

When I was six years old, my mother and three close family members were killed in a sudden and public tragedy, hurling those of us who survived int

I’m a person who needs to know the facts. I bring a notebook with me to every doctor’s appointment. I record important meetings. The research list for my memoir is pages long. Why should pregnancy be any different? And so the research began.

This article first appeared on The Good Men Proje

If bisexuals do not begin claiming their genuine identity, then society will never begin to fully understand and accept that bisexuals exist. I don’t particularly express and proclaim my bisexuality in unwarranted ways for special treatment. I claim my bisexuality for personal, significant reasons because it increases my confidence; decreases anxiety; improves my marriage, and increases bisexual legitimacy.

In early adulthood, the bipolar disorder that was my genetic destiny was pushed around — shuffled from doctor to doctor, city to city, misdiagnosis to misdiagnosis. Deeply distressed, consumed by sadness after the birth of my first child, they called it “postpartum depression.” If I had manic energy, they called it “drive” or “passion” or “dedication.” Snap decisions, irresponsible, risky, promiscuous behavior — it was just “life learning.” I never finished anything I started, something always got in the way.

Many women encounter pressure in the delivery room to opt for surgery. If you're a minority, you might face additional scrutiny. But never forget: as long as baby and you are healthy, the choice to push is yours.