Families

I love him in spite of myself. I have good memories of him. I don’t want him to die.

My Father Abused Me, And Now He's Dying

My dad had an explosive anger that he took out on his children. My father abused me and I love him in spite of myself. I don’t want him to die.

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My mom helped me find the balancing point between caretaking and controlling because she insisted on her autonomy. “I don’t need your help in the shower,” she’d say, “and I can dress myself.”

The Summer My Mother's Progressive Arthritis Taught Me To Love And Let Go​

That summer became the fulcrum of a seesaw: as my children need me less, my mother needed me more. My mother's arthritis taught me to love and let go.

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In this family, those figures traditionally made of three snowballs stacked atop each other — they’re called snowpeople.

In This Family, We Say Snowperson 

People might raise their eyebrows when they hear me say “snowperson” for the first time. But it makes perfect sense. A man is just a kind of person.

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We could go to the gym and achieve huge physical feats together as we started climbing the rock walls.

When I Couldn’t Get Pregnant, I Started Climbing The (Rock) Walls

Trying to conceive puts enormous stress on couples. We could go to the gym and achieve huge physical feats together as we started climbing the rock walls.

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I am tired. In fact, I am more than just tired, I am exhausted.

Christmas Is Over And I’m Exhausted

I am more than just tired, I am exhausted. Men just don’t do as much as women when it comes to the holidays — when it comes to most things.

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There is no more powerful place to learn a life lesson than at the bedside of the dying.

What Really Matters: A Lesson From The Dying

There is no more powerful place to learn a life lesson than at the bedside of the dying. At the end, very little matters.

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I think our nonchalance about our own blackness led to the Christmas that Grandma tried and failed to introduce is to Kwanzaa.

The Year My Grandma Tried (And Failed) To Make Kwanzaa Happen

I think our nonchalance about our own blackness led to the Christmas that Grandma tried and failed to introduce us to Kwanzaa.

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Our society may not yet be post-gender, but our home can easily be.

Because “I’m A Human”: Non-Binary Parenting

I’ve been catapulted from gender-neutral parenting to a call to action to break down the gender binary altogether and move to non-binary parenting.

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