Jo Qualmann

Jo Qualmann

Bio

Jo proudly identifies as asexual, a feminist and an activist, and writes a blog titled A Life Unexamined.

Jo Qualmann Articles

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I Was Born Without A Sex Drive And I’m Okay With It

I first found out about asexuality when I was 19. I was born without a sex drive and I’m not particularly interested in looking for a romantic relationship.

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I have been in a relationship before, with a partner I loved deeply — just not in a sexual way or one that would be considered traditionally romantic. Image: PEXELS.

I Was Born Without A Sex Drive And I'm OK With It

My moment of discovery literally came from Googling ‘how to tell if you’re attracted to someone’ late at night. I stumbled across someone else asking the same sort of question and found a reference to asexuality. It clicked instantly, it explained everything — definitely a light bulb moment. It was such a relief to find out other people felt, or didn’t feel, the same way. But at the same time it was kind of terrifying because I became aware that everything I had been taught and thought I knew about sexuality had just been thrown out the window. It was a whole new world, a real paradigm shift, and it felt great.

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