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Bring the sexiness of lingerie out for a wearable street look. (Image Credit: Benjamin Pete photographer for Ready to Stare)

#FatshionFriday: The Lingerie Look

A big trend for 2017 so far has been the lingerie look.

Here’s what I know right now: my story will have many more ups and downs.

I Have An Eating Disorder: An Introspective  

Being a human is hard. Being a human with an eating disorder is inexplicably hard. Every time I think I have control over the situation, my eating Read...

What happens when you don't know if you don't know someone...

'Sorry, I Don't Recognize You:' Living With Face Blindness

Everybody's compensating for something, right?

Take The Cake: Secret Relationships With Fat Women

When we both moved to San Francisco in our 20s, she moved to a wealthy neighborhood and I moved into a neighborhood where old men had phone sex on Read...

The comments I get, you would not believe. (Image Credit: Kristi Pahr)

Life As A 39-Year-Old With Fully Gray Hair

I found my first gray hair when I was 12 years old. Twelve. I had gray hair before I had a period.

"I had to reckon with the fact that people do this to other people, that men do this to women, that my body had been coopted and turned into a repository for someone else’s shame."

Take The Cake: Is Fatness A Superpower?

This week in Babecamp we were talking about Sarai Walker’s novel Dietland.

I woke up quickly when everything was over, and although I was told I should expect that I would feel weird, I felt pretty good.

Navigating IVF: Retrieval Day 

On the day before Valentine’s Day, I had egg retrieval. Nothing says romance like sticking a literal needle through the walls of your vagina, Read...

“"Have a burger for God’s sake,” “You’re a twig,” “Are you anorexic?”

"Lucky": The Plight Of The Naturally Skinny Girl 

I don’t care about my weight. But other people do.