body shame

When I was 16 years old I took a hostess job at a breastaurant. (Photo: Wikimedia Commons)

What I Learned About Feminism While Working At A Breastaurant

When I was 16 years old I took a hostess job at a breastaurant — one of those chain restaurants, like Hooters, known for large-breasted servers.

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Yes, men, even woke men, still say the most unbelievable things to us in bed.

Things Men Need To Stop Saying To Women In Bed

Yes, men, even woke men, still say the most unbelievable things to us in bed and most of the time, we don’t say anything back.

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I have to reject self-loathing when it arrives in the guise of self-care, and that means I have to opt out of skin care culture.

Skin Care Talk Is The New Diet Talk (And I Hate It)

People talk about skin care like it’s fun — a way to relax. But for me, the very idea opens onto a black hole of self-loathing.

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Take The Cake: Do We Support Thin Feminists More Than Fat Feminists?

What I’ve noticed, as a fat feminist, is that self-identifying as a feminist or an activist bears a different social cost depending on your body size.

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Failure And Body Shame On A Guatemalan Volcano

My breathing hastened and my crying intensified. The elevation wasn’t doing me any favors. All I knew was that it was pitch black on a lava field in Guatemala and I’d lost my tour group.

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“"Have a burger for God’s sake,” “You’re a twig,” “Are you anorexic?”

"Lucky": The Plight Of The Naturally Skinny Girl 

I don’t care about my weight. But other people do.

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Take The Cake: Virgie's Guide To A Power-Babe Thanksgiving

Like, "Yum, there is a table full of delicious food" but also, "Ugh, am I gonna hate myself after I eat this?"

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I wasn’t just wearing a swimsuit; I was moving in one. Image: Thinkstock.

How I Overcame My Swimsuit Phobia And Learned To Appreciate My Body

My swimsuit phobia started in middle school — that breeding ground of body shame and fear. One minute I’m a kid excitedly putting on my pink two-piece and running into the ocean, the next, I’m avoiding any place where people are known to live in their swimsuits and I might be forced to wear one.

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